by KCLAnderson | Jan 18, 2021 | Adult daughter, Awareness, Boundaries, Emotions, Empowerment, Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering, The Wisdom of Others, Trauma
“All forward motion disappoints someone.” ~ Seth Godin Question from a reader re Why Rehashing The Past Doesn’t Work: “What if my mother doesn’t understand that I am moving on from the dynamic and her feelings are hurt? It’s hard to...
by KCLAnderson | Jan 12, 2021 | Awareness, forgiveness, Mother-daughter relationship, Relationships, Trauma
Rehashing the past, even the recent past, with someone (your mother) who is unaware of their trauma tends not to end well. Her unresolved trauma and triggers make it nearly impossible for her to respond to you in an emotionally mature way. Instead she reacts. So. You...
by KCLAnderson | Jan 11, 2021 | Adult daughter, Anger, Awareness, Emotions, grief, Guilt, Mother-daughter relationship, Relationships, Self-Acceptance, Shame, Trauma
If you’ve been in therapy and are still having issues with your mother, then working with me is a great next step, especially if some aspect of the relationship you have with your mother is holding you back in any way, shape, or form from something you want....
by KCLAnderson | Dec 29, 2020 | Uncategorized
…here’s what I’ve learned. (If you’d prefer, you can listen to the podcast version of this blog post by clicking here) Ten years ago this week I received an email from my mother that at the time I deemed “the last straw.” I struggled with...
by KCLAnderson | Dec 22, 2020 | Feminism, Generational patterns, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, Shadow, The Wisdom of Others
Love, it takes strength and courage to rock your family’s boat. To choose differently than what has been done for generations. To not do what was done just because they did it. When you make this choice you’re shifting and changing generations of identity...