Advice, Essays, and other bits of wisdom

Give your mother permission to be wrong about you

There are some shitty people in the world and some of them just happened to be mothers. Acknowledging that doesn't make you a bad person. Feeling angry about it doesn't mean you're not evolved....

MYTH: apologies and forgiveness are necessary

MYTH: the only way to move forward, heal, and feel better about your relationship with your mother is for both of you – equally – to want to repair the relationship, for you both – equally – to...

When boundaries become energetic

Question from a reader: I have just finished reading your book, processing all the great things you’ve written, and deciding how to apply those things to my life. I have been married for three years...

A brave middle path

(Listen to the podcast version) I recently read A Woman Is No Man by Etaf Rum.  It's a semi-autobiographical novel about three generations of Palestinian women living in the U.S. and the (in some...



“If there was A Nobel Prize for women helping/supporting women, you’d be the recipient. I love you.” ~ C.H.

“I have benefitted so much from your work and I especially used Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters to help me reframe my relationship with my own difficult mother. In a nutshell, I have learned to give her the unconditional love she always denied me and to allow her to be whoever she is. So much wisdom in that book! I was underlining on almost every page.” ~ J.M.

Karen, I find your blog posts so inspiring. I now have a fabulous relationship with my mum but it takes concentrated work each day to keep it being good. I am so glad I found you and your writing.” ~ S.H.

“As always, your writing hits the very thing I needed to see / hear / read, just when I need it! Even when, and especially when, people see your mother as “super human” – someone to be admired and followed – we can have different relationships with them. While I don’t comment often, know that I read everything I receive from you – and I get value from it all!” ~ D.D.

“Believe it or not your book was so helpful even though I got a hold of it only 6 months before my mother died. Your weekly Love Notes continue to be helpful and I recommend your book to anyone with a deceased mother who feels like they are still being controlled from the grave.” ~ J.Z.

“The advice you provide in your weekly Love Notes What is so skillful. powerful, loving, and boundaried. Thank you for modeling how to show up with wisdom instead of defensively. I feel a little safer in the world.” ~ L.R.

Karen, you are awesome. I love having your emails in my inbox giving me added support with loving my elderly mum.” ~ H.S.

“I am so thankful for discovering you and you never fail to surprise me with how on point and how relatable your words and messages are.” ~ K.S.

“Thank you so much for this! This couldn’t have come at a better time. You are so intuitive!” ~ K.B.

“Thank you once again for seeing so much of the truth of who I am and who I want to be, and writing it so beautifully!” ~ B.C.


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