Advice, Essays, and other bits of wisdom
"The creation of the second self (ego) doesn't happen in love. Ego is created in defense of love." ~ Russ Hudson, co-founder of the Enneagram Institute Note: Some of this content may be upsetting or...
3 things that will make it easier to have a relationship with your narcissistic mother (if that’s what you want)
Not all adult daughters want to go "no contact" with mothers who have narcissistic tendencies, bipolar disorder, borderline personality disorder, and other trauma-related conditions. If that's you,...
Question from a reader: Dear Karen... Three years ago I requested a break from my mother as my health was bad and stress aggravated it. I am coming to a place where I might want to have a...
"But you don't understand...this MY mother we're talking about. She's going to think ______. She's going to feel ______. She's not going to get it. She'll just say ______." I get it. You're on high...
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