There is no failure; there is only practice

by KCLAnderson | Aug 11, 2020 | Awareness, Emotions, Empowerment, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship

You are built to feel love. It’s your birthright. And there’s a part of you that wants to feel love when you think about your mother. Even if she was a terrible person. Even if she did terrible things. The idea of feeling love for her might also feel...

Crying out for Mother…again

by KCLAnderson | Jun 19, 2020 | Awareness, Emotions, Empowerment, Feminism, Generational patterns, grief, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, racism, Re-mothering, Relationships

A couple of weeks ago my husband and I noticed that the fur on our pup Scout’s cheek was wet. We had noticed it few days prior, but chalked it up to it being rainy and humid. Then we noticed that it was also sticky. When we tried to clean it, she yelped. We...

The Mother Lode – A Community Project Just For You

by KCLAnderson | May 27, 2020 | Awareness, creativity, Emotions, Feminism, Generational patterns, journal writing, Mother-daughter relationship

The term Mother Lode refers to something valuable or in great abundance. You know it when you see it. The Mother Lode: A Conversation About Emotions, Power & Creativity is a free, month-long community project about what we learned (or didn’t learn) about...

Regarding forgiveness, “should” is a you-know-what

by KCLAnderson | May 7, 2020 | Awareness, Emotions, forgiveness, Generational patterns, Guilt, Mother-daughter relationship, Shame

[…it’s an asshole, “should is an asshole” ~ Jen Pastiloff] Forgiveness is something that comes up A LOT for adult daughters in regards to their mothers. And it usually gets one of two reactions: “Oh I really should forgive her, but I...

You know this is true

by KCLAnderson | Apr 28, 2020 | Adult daughter, Anger, Awareness, Emotions, Empowerment, Feminism, Generational patterns, inner critic, Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering, Shadow

“A bad mood can feel luxurious in a society that binds our happiness to our productivity.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣” ~ my friend Nicole Lawrence I was in such a foul mood on Saturday. I carried it with me, purposefully, and it was like a heavy purse that keeps sliding off...

Overcome creative anxiety and disarm your inner critic

by KCLAnderson | Apr 28, 2020 | Adult daughter, creativity, Emotions, inner critic, journal writing, Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering, Setting Goals

I have a new book coming out in June! Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic may seem like a drastic departure from difficult mother-daughter relationships, but in the writing of it I discovered many similarities....