by KCLAnderson | Jan 20, 2020 | Anger, Awareness, Emotions, Generational patterns, journal writing, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, Relationships, Shadow, The Wisdom of Others
“The one who tested and triggered you the most was also the one who was sent forth to set you free from the pattern.” ~ as seen on the Internet I am not a mother. You may already know that. I never wanted to be a mother and at 57 I still have no regrets in...
by KCLAnderson | Nov 22, 2019 | Adult daughter, Awareness, Boundaries, Emotions, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering, Relationships
[I’ve been asked many times over the years why it’s so hard for some of us to have anything more than “superficial” conversations with our mothers or daughters…after a recent conversation with my mother, here’s my long answer.] The...
by KCLAnderson | Nov 15, 2019 | Awareness, Emotions, Feminism, Generational patterns, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship
Last summer my mother asked me why I didn’t want to have children. She was sure there was a specific reason like: “You didn’t want to have to clean poopy diapers or hold someone’s head while they threw up.” While that is true, it’s not “the reason.” I replied that...
by KCLAnderson | Oct 15, 2019 | Awareness, Emotions, Feminism, Guilt, Mother-daughter relationship
Question from a reader: How do I navigate and get over the guilt I feel because I am choosing to protect myself instead of calling my mother (or rarely calling her). For a while, phone calls had resumed and were cautiously pleasant, until she spent a month in the...
by KCLAnderson | Oct 4, 2019 | Awareness, Emotions, Generational patterns, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering, Shame
Dear you… A couple of years ago, I was tagged in a thread on Facebook in which someone shared an article about why unloved daughters struggle to escape shame. Several women commented that this had been (and in some cases still is) their experience. “This is my...
by KCLAnderson | Sep 25, 2019 | Boundaries, Emotions, Empowerment, Generational patterns
“If I wasn’t afraid to feel __________________ I’d __________________.” Dear you… So often the reason you don’t… Set the boundary… Speak up for yourself… Say no… Say yes… Do the thing you’re...
