by KCLAnderson | Jan 20, 2020 | Anger, Awareness, Emotions, Generational patterns, journal writing, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, Relationships, Shadow, The Wisdom of Others
“The one who tested and triggered you the most was also the one who was sent forth to set you free from the pattern.” ~ as seen on the Internet I am not a mother. You may already know that. I never wanted to be a mother and at 57 I still have no regrets in...
by KCLAnderson | Nov 22, 2019 | Adult daughter, Awareness, Boundaries, Emotions, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering, Relationships
[I’ve been asked many times over the years why it’s so hard for some of us to have anything more than “superficial” conversations with our mothers or daughters…after a recent conversation with my mother, here’s my long answer.] The...
by KCLAnderson | Sep 14, 2019 | Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, narcissism, Relationships, Self-Acceptance
I stopped wishing she’d change. I started noticing the difference between what she does and how I labeled it. I asked myself two key questions. Re: wishing she’d change Think about how hard it is to change a significant behavior. First, you have to know it’s a...
by KCLAnderson | Aug 23, 2019 | Awareness, Boundaries, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, Relationships
Question from a reader… I have a girls trip to Hawaii planned with my adult daughter, my mother-in-law, and my mother in April 2020. I have a close relationship with my daughter and I am so thankful it’s not like the relationship I have with my mother. I’m also...
by KCLAnderson | May 13, 2019 | Feminism, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, Relationships
My mother is old and dying. We’ve never gotten along and everyone knows it. I can’t think of one nice thing to say about her. She was/is [insert all the negative things about her here]. But I feel obligated to say something nice about her at her funeral....
by KCLAnderson | Feb 1, 2019 | Awareness, Empowerment, Mother-daughter relationship, Relationships, The Wisdom of Others
[I AM NOT DOING MY JOB if anyone who reads my books/columns/newsletter believes that they have to wait for someone to die in order to feel better (and I make this distinction…it’s okay if you want to wait, but you don’t HAVE to wait)] Question from a...
