by KCLAnderson | Jan 12, 2021 | Awareness, forgiveness, Mother-daughter relationship, Relationships, Trauma
Rehashing the past, even the recent past, with someone (your mother) who is unaware of their trauma tends not to end well. Her unresolved trauma and triggers make it nearly impossible for her to respond to you in an emotionally mature way. Instead she reacts. So. You...
by KCLAnderson | Jan 11, 2021 | Adult daughter, Anger, Awareness, Emotions, grief, Guilt, Mother-daughter relationship, Relationships, Self-Acceptance, Shame, Trauma
If you’ve been in therapy and are still having issues with your mother, then working with me is a great next step, especially if some aspect of the relationship you have with your mother is holding you back in any way, shape, or form from something you want....
by KCLAnderson | Dec 16, 2020 | Awareness, Boundaries, Feminism, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, Philosophizing, Relationships, The Wisdom of Others
I bet you struggle with binaries. You’re either a good or bad. Right or wrong. Loving or mean. Attentive or neglectful. Smart or stupid. Responsible or irresponsible. Selfless or selfish. Your logical self knows you’re way more nuanced than this, but...
by KCLAnderson | Nov 30, 2020 | Anger, Awareness, Boundaries, co-dependence, controlling mother, Emotions, Generational patterns, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, Relationships
There are some shitty people in the world and some of them just happened to be mothers. Acknowledging that doesn’t make you a bad person. Feeling angry about it doesn’t mean you’re not evolved. Feeling sad about it doesn’t mean you’re...
by KCLAnderson | Nov 3, 2020 | Awareness, Boundaries, co-dependence, controlling mother, Emotions, Generational patterns, Guilt, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, Relationships, The Wisdom of Others
Question from a reader: I have just finished reading your book, processing all the great things you’ve written, and deciding how to apply those things to my life. I have been married for three years to someone my mom actually picked out for me to meet. The...
by KCLAnderson | Oct 26, 2020 | Adult daughter, Awareness, Boundaries, Emotions, Feminism, Generational patterns, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering, Relationships, Self-Acceptance, Shadow, Shame
You’ve come here to work on the relationship you have with your mother. To establish healthy, mature boundaries. Inevitably, you will also work on the relationship you have with yourself. And the relationships you have with others. You will uncover painful...