by KCLAnderson | Apr 15, 2022 | Awareness, Boundaries, co-dependence, Emotions, estrangement, Feminism, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, Relationships, Shame, The Wisdom of Others, Trauma
According to a Cornell University study, nearly 30% of adult children have been estranged from their parents at some point their lives. Another study conducted by the University of Wisconsin surveyed over 1000 mothers and 52% indicated they were estranged from an...
by KCLAnderson | Feb 23, 2022 | Boundaries, co-dependence, Feminism, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, Relationships, The Wisdom of Others
When you’re used to codependence and emotional enmeshment, clear, healthy, mature boundaries will feel confrontational and divisive. Boundaries are not confrontational. Boundaries are not disrespectful. Boundaries are not divisive. Boundaries are your values in...
by KCLAnderson | Feb 9, 2022 | Adult daughter, Awareness, Emotions, Generational patterns, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, Relationships, Self-Acceptance, The Wisdom of Others
I should… …be further along …be over it by now …no longer be taking it personally …be more positive …know better …not feel so angry/guilty/regretful/resentful… If you’re like me, these are thoughts your brain offers to you over and over again…...
by KCLAnderson | Oct 7, 2021 | Adult daughter, Anger, Awareness, Emotions, Guilt, Mother-daughter relationship, Relationships, The Wisdom of Others, Uncategorized
Most of the women I work with tell me that they want to avoid guilt at all costs. It’s among the top three emotions they say they don’t want to feel…and yet it is usually one of the top three emotions they DO feel (especially when it comes to the...
by KCLAnderson | May 31, 2021 | Adult daughter, Boundaries, Generational patterns, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, narcissism, Relationships
Not all adult daughters want to go “no contact” with mothers who have narcissistic tendencies, bipolar disorder, borderline personality disorder, and other trauma-related conditions. If that’s you, here are three things you can do to make it easier...
by KCLAnderson | Jan 12, 2021 | Awareness, forgiveness, Mother-daughter relationship, Relationships, Trauma
Rehashing the past, even the recent past, with someone (your mother) who is unaware of their trauma tends not to end well. Her unresolved trauma and triggers make it nearly impossible for her to respond to you in an emotionally mature way. Instead she reacts. So. You...
