THIS is where the pattern gets interrupted

by KCLAnderson | Oct 26, 2020 | Adult daughter, Awareness, Boundaries, Emotions, Feminism, Generational patterns, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering, Relationships, Self-Acceptance, Shadow, Shame

You’ve come here to work on the relationship you have with your mother. To establish healthy, mature boundaries. Inevitably, you will also work on the relationship you have with yourself. And the relationships you have with others. You will uncover painful...

the most life-affirming thing you’ve ever done

by KCLAnderson | Oct 21, 2020 | Adult daughter, Awareness, Boundaries, controlling mother, Emotions, Empowerment, Feminism, forgiveness, Generational patterns, grief, Guilt, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering, Relationships, Self-Acceptance, The Wisdom of Others

It’s not easy to reconcile and heal your relationship with your mother if it’s been a source of suffering. It’s an ongoing process that can include the cycling of intense emotion (fear, rage, grief) and the seeming lack of emotion (numbness). It can also include...

A Literal Shit Show (Part 2)

by KCLAnderson | Jan 21, 2020 | Anger, Awareness, Emotions, Generational patterns, journal writing, Re-mothering, Self-Acceptance, Shame, The Wisdom of Others

When I shared A Literal Shit Show (Part 1) with the folks who subscribe to my weekly Love Notes, I received MANY responses. Some told me their puppy stories (and shared photos of their sweet pups), some told me their mother stories, some laughed and laughed (some so...

I stopped, I started, I asked

by KCLAnderson | Sep 14, 2019 | Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, narcissism, Relationships, Self-Acceptance

I stopped wishing she’d change. I started noticing the difference between what she does and how I labeled it. I asked myself two key questions. Re: wishing she’d change Think about how hard it is to change a significant behavior. First, you have to know it’s a...

“How do I get past the hatred and rage?”

by KCLAnderson | Aug 16, 2019 | Awareness, Emotions, Empowerment, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, Self-Acceptance, Shadow

How do I get past the sheer hatred and rage that I feel for my mother? I have gone no contact for the past two years but I still feel it every day. I don’t want it to affect my life anymore. But I don’t know how to get past it.⠀ ⠀ Dear you…⠀ ⠀ I love...

What do you need to accept about yourself?

by KCLAnderson | Jul 11, 2019 | Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering, Self-Acceptance, Shadow, The Wisdom of Others

“Nothing I accept about myself can be used against me to diminish me.” ~ Audre Lorde For years, I couldn’t stand the idea of my mother thinking I was a selfish, spoiled brat, a liar, a sneak, and someone who takes the easy way out. And and and. Now I...