“Nothing I accept about myself can be used against me to diminish me.” ~ Audre Lorde For years, I couldn’t stand the idea of my mother thinking I was a selfish, spoiled brat, a liar, a sneak, and someone who takes the easy way out. And and and. Now I...
Questions from a reader: I’m reading your book. On page 130, you talk about the child you were carrying at age 21 and how you chose not to carry it. Can you explain? As a reader of your words I want to understand what you mean. Did you think you couldn’t love a child...
Imagine me reading this to your mother…or, if you’d like to hear me read it, click here. Also, your mother may be mentally ill, addicted, and/or have a personality disorder that prevents her from having the empathy and ability to hear and receive this...
I wrote this in response to a query from a writer for Martha Stewart magazine who was looking for answers from women 50+ to this question: What’s the #1 piece of advice you’d like to tell your younger self? My answer wasn’t used, so I am sharing it...
(I captured this image in my garden a couple of weeks ago) Bless the daughters who sat, carrying the trauma of mothers. Who sat asking for more love, and not getting any, carried themselves to light. Bless the daughters who raised themselves.~ Ijeoma Umebinyuo...
[This post falls into the categories of “self acceptance through storytelling” and “examining the ways in which we are like our mothers.” I have written a time or two about how when we resist being like our mothers there may be unintended...
