by KCLAnderson | May 7, 2020 | creativity, Generational patterns, Guilt, inner critic, journal writing, Re-mothering, Shadow, Shame, The Wisdom of Others
I recently read Glennon Doyle’s book Untamed. In the Concessions chapter she talks about watching a TV show in which a teenage girl is about to tell her parents that she’s gay. The girl says, “I have to tell you something. I like girls.” And...
by KCLAnderson | May 7, 2020 | Awareness, Emotions, forgiveness, Generational patterns, Guilt, Mother-daughter relationship, Shame
[…it’s an asshole, “should is an asshole” ~ Jen Pastiloff] Forgiveness is something that comes up A LOT for adult daughters in regards to their mothers. And it usually gets one of two reactions: “Oh I really should forgive her, but I...
by KCLAnderson | Jan 21, 2020 | Anger, Awareness, Emotions, Generational patterns, journal writing, Re-mothering, Self-Acceptance, Shame, The Wisdom of Others
When I shared A Literal Shit Show (Part 1) with the folks who subscribe to my weekly Love Notes, I received MANY responses. Some told me their puppy stories (and shared photos of their sweet pups), some told me their mother stories, some laughed and laughed (some so...
by KCLAnderson | Oct 4, 2019 | Awareness, Emotions, Generational patterns, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering, Shame
Dear you… A couple of years ago, I was tagged in a thread on Facebook in which someone shared an article about why unloved daughters struggle to escape shame. Several women commented that this had been (and in some cases still is) their experience. “This is my...
by KCLAnderson | Jan 4, 2019 | Awareness, Boundaries, Generational patterns, Shame, The Wisdom of Others
Dear you… This work is iterative. It builds on itself. It’s rarely one-and-done. It’s very rarely ever a simple flip of the switch. You choose to look inward, to heal, to transform yourself using the lens of your relationship with your mother. You...
by KCLAnderson | Nov 2, 2018 | Awareness, Emotions, Empowerment, Re-mothering, Self-Acceptance, Shadow, Shame
I wrote this in response to a query from a writer for Martha Stewart magazine who was looking for answers from women 50+ to this question: What’s the #1 piece of advice you’d like to tell your younger self? My answer wasn’t used, so I am sharing it...
