by KCLAnderson | Jan 18, 2021 | Adult daughter, Awareness, Boundaries, Emotions, Empowerment, Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering, The Wisdom of Others, Trauma
“All forward motion disappoints someone.” ~ Seth Godin Question from a reader re Why Rehashing The Past Doesn’t Work: “What if my mother doesn’t understand that I am moving on from the dynamic and her feelings are hurt? It’s hard to...
by KCLAnderson | Dec 22, 2020 | Feminism, Generational patterns, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, Shadow, The Wisdom of Others
Love, it takes strength and courage to rock your family’s boat. To choose differently than what has been done for generations. To not do what was done just because they did it. When you make this choice you’re shifting and changing generations of identity...
by KCLAnderson | Dec 16, 2020 | Awareness, Boundaries, Feminism, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, Philosophizing, Relationships, The Wisdom of Others
I bet you struggle with binaries. You’re either a good or bad. Right or wrong. Loving or mean. Attentive or neglectful. Smart or stupid. Responsible or irresponsible. Selfless or selfish. Your logical self knows you’re way more nuanced than this, but...
by KCLAnderson | Nov 3, 2020 | Awareness, Boundaries, co-dependence, controlling mother, Emotions, Generational patterns, Guilt, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, Relationships, The Wisdom of Others
Question from a reader: I have just finished reading your book, processing all the great things you’ve written, and deciding how to apply those things to my life. I have been married for three years to someone my mom actually picked out for me to meet. The...
by KCLAnderson | Oct 21, 2020 | Adult daughter, Awareness, Boundaries, controlling mother, Emotions, Empowerment, Feminism, forgiveness, Generational patterns, grief, Guilt, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering, Relationships, Self-Acceptance, The Wisdom of Others
It’s not easy to reconcile and heal your relationship with your mother if it’s been a source of suffering. It’s an ongoing process that can include the cycling of intense emotion (fear, rage, grief) and the seeming lack of emotion (numbness). It can also include...
by KCLAnderson | Aug 11, 2020 | Awareness, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, The Wisdom of Others
A client asked me if I still need to work on my relationship with my mother. She wondered if I feel good about it all the time. I laughed out loud. Yes I still work on it and no I don’t feel good about it all the time. In fact, I have not spoken to my mother in...