by KCLAnderson | Feb 13, 2020 | Awareness, controlling mother, Feminism, Generational patterns, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, Shadow, The Wisdom of Others
What did your mother teach you (directly or indirectly) about choices? Her own, yours, other women’s? Directly mine taught me that I could be and do anything. She modeled it (not 100% of time, and that’s okay…she’s a human, not a robot)....
by KCLAnderson | Jan 21, 2020 | Anger, Awareness, Emotions, Generational patterns, journal writing, Re-mothering, Self-Acceptance, Shame, The Wisdom of Others
When I shared A Literal Shit Show (Part 1) with the folks who subscribe to my weekly Love Notes, I received MANY responses. Some told me their puppy stories (and shared photos of their sweet pups), some told me their mother stories, some laughed and laughed (some so...
by KCLAnderson | Dec 13, 2019 | Anger, Awareness, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, The Wisdom of Others
Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live; it’s asking others to live as one wishes to live. ~ Ruth Rendell Difficult mothers often want their adult daughters to live as they do (without even realizing it, mostly). “We do it this way.”...
by KCLAnderson | Jan 25, 2019 | Awareness, Emotions, grief, Mother-daughter relationship, Relationships, The Wisdom of Others
Question from a reader… A friend recently lost her mother and I think it sparked a grieving process in me. It’s as if my own mother was dead, the mother I always wished I had. My mother is, of course, alive and well and we continue to have a very difficult...
by KCLAnderson | Jan 4, 2019 | Awareness, Boundaries, Generational patterns, Shame, The Wisdom of Others
Dear you… This work is iterative. It builds on itself. It’s rarely one-and-done. It’s very rarely ever a simple flip of the switch. You choose to look inward, to heal, to transform yourself using the lens of your relationship with your mother. You...
by KCLAnderson | Oct 19, 2018 | Awareness, Empowerment, Re-mothering, The Wisdom of Others
You: This is going to take me a long time to unravel and get to the root of it all. Me: Why do you think it will take a long time? You: Because it’s so old and deep. Me: What if you have the answer right now? You: {stunned silence} Me: Are you there? You: How is...
