by KCLAnderson | Oct 21, 2020 | Adult daughter, Awareness, Boundaries, controlling mother, Emotions, Empowerment, Feminism, forgiveness, Generational patterns, grief, Guilt, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering, Relationships, Self-Acceptance, The Wisdom of Others
It’s not easy to reconcile and heal your relationship with your mother if it’s been a source of suffering. It’s an ongoing process that can include the cycling of intense emotion (fear, rage, grief) and the seeming lack of emotion (numbness). It can also include...
by KCLAnderson | Aug 11, 2020 | Awareness, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, The Wisdom of Others
A client asked me if I still need to work on my relationship with my mother. She wondered if I feel good about it all the time. I laughed out loud. Yes I still work on it and no I don’t feel good about it all the time. In fact, I have not spoken to my mother in...
by KCLAnderson | May 7, 2020 | creativity, Generational patterns, Guilt, inner critic, journal writing, Re-mothering, Shadow, Shame, The Wisdom of Others
I recently read Glennon Doyle’s book Untamed. In the Concessions chapter she talks about watching a TV show in which a teenage girl is about to tell her parents that she’s gay. The girl says, “I have to tell you something. I like girls.” And...
by KCLAnderson | Feb 13, 2020 | Awareness, controlling mother, Feminism, Generational patterns, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, Shadow, The Wisdom of Others
What did your mother teach you (directly or indirectly) about choices? Her own, yours, other women’s? Directly mine taught me that I could be and do anything. She modeled it (not 100% of time, and that’s okay…she’s a human, not a robot)....
by KCLAnderson | Jan 21, 2020 | Anger, Awareness, Emotions, Generational patterns, journal writing, Re-mothering, Self-Acceptance, Shame, The Wisdom of Others
When I shared A Literal Shit Show (Part 1) with the folks who subscribe to my weekly Love Notes, I received MANY responses. Some told me their puppy stories (and shared photos of their sweet pups), some told me their mother stories, some laughed and laughed (some so...
by KCLAnderson | Dec 13, 2019 | Anger, Awareness, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, The Wisdom of Others
Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live; it’s asking others to live as one wishes to live. ~ Ruth Rendell Difficult mothers often want their adult daughters to live as they do (without even realizing it, mostly). “We do it this way.”...
