by KCLAnderson | Apr 15, 2022 | Awareness, Boundaries, co-dependence, Emotions, estrangement, Feminism, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, Relationships, Shame, The Wisdom of Others, Trauma
According to a Cornell University study, nearly 30% of adult children have been estranged from their parents at some point their lives. Another study conducted by the University of Wisconsin surveyed over 1000 mothers and 52% indicated they were estranged from an...
by KCLAnderson | Feb 23, 2022 | Boundaries, co-dependence, Feminism, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, Relationships, The Wisdom of Others
When you’re used to codependence and emotional enmeshment, clear, healthy, mature boundaries will feel confrontational and divisive. Boundaries are not confrontational. Boundaries are not disrespectful. Boundaries are not divisive. Boundaries are your values in...
by KCLAnderson | May 31, 2021 | Adult daughter, Boundaries, Generational patterns, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, narcissism, Relationships
Not all adult daughters want to go “no contact” with mothers who have narcissistic tendencies, bipolar disorder, borderline personality disorder, and other trauma-related conditions. If that’s you, here are three things you can do to make it easier...
by KCLAnderson | Mar 24, 2021 | Adult daughter, Awareness, Boundaries, co-dependence, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, Self-Acceptance
“But you don’t understand…this MY mother we’re talking about. She’s going to think ______. She’s going to feel ______. She’s not going to get it. She’ll just say ______.” I get it. You’re on high alert when...
by KCLAnderson | Jan 18, 2021 | Adult daughter, Awareness, Boundaries, Emotions, Empowerment, Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering, The Wisdom of Others, Trauma
“All forward motion disappoints someone.” ~ Seth Godin Question from a reader re Why Rehashing The Past Doesn’t Work: “What if my mother doesn’t understand that I am moving on from the dynamic and her feelings are hurt? It’s hard to...
by KCLAnderson | Dec 16, 2020 | Awareness, Boundaries, Feminism, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, Philosophizing, Relationships, The Wisdom of Others
I bet you struggle with binaries. You’re either a good or bad. Right or wrong. Loving or mean. Attentive or neglectful. Smart or stupid. Responsible or irresponsible. Selfless or selfish. Your logical self knows you’re way more nuanced than this, but...
