by KCLAnderson | Jan 18, 2021 | Adult daughter, Awareness, Boundaries, Emotions, Empowerment, Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering, The Wisdom of Others, Trauma
“All forward motion disappoints someone.” ~ Seth Godin Question from a reader re Why Rehashing The Past Doesn’t Work: “What if my mother doesn’t understand that I am moving on from the dynamic and her feelings are hurt? It’s hard to...
by KCLAnderson | Dec 16, 2020 | Awareness, Boundaries, Feminism, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, Philosophizing, Relationships, The Wisdom of Others
I bet you struggle with binaries. You’re either a good or bad. Right or wrong. Loving or mean. Attentive or neglectful. Smart or stupid. Responsible or irresponsible. Selfless or selfish. Your logical self knows you’re way more nuanced than this, but...
by KCLAnderson | Nov 30, 2020 | Anger, Awareness, Boundaries, co-dependence, controlling mother, Emotions, Generational patterns, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, Relationships
There are some shitty people in the world and some of them just happened to be mothers. Acknowledging that doesn’t make you a bad person. Feeling angry about it doesn’t mean you’re not evolved. Feeling sad about it doesn’t mean you’re...
by KCLAnderson | Nov 3, 2020 | Awareness, Boundaries, co-dependence, controlling mother, Emotions, Generational patterns, Guilt, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, Relationships, The Wisdom of Others
Question from a reader: I have just finished reading your book, processing all the great things you’ve written, and deciding how to apply those things to my life. I have been married for three years to someone my mom actually picked out for me to meet. The...
by KCLAnderson | Oct 26, 2020 | Adult daughter, Awareness, Boundaries, Emotions, Feminism, Generational patterns, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering, Relationships, Self-Acceptance, Shadow, Shame
You’ve come here to work on the relationship you have with your mother. To establish healthy, mature boundaries. Inevitably, you will also work on the relationship you have with yourself. And the relationships you have with others. You will uncover painful...
by KCLAnderson | Oct 21, 2020 | Adult daughter, Awareness, Boundaries, controlling mother, Emotions, Empowerment, Feminism, forgiveness, Generational patterns, grief, Guilt, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering, Relationships, Self-Acceptance, The Wisdom of Others
It’s not easy to reconcile and heal your relationship with your mother if it’s been a source of suffering. It’s an ongoing process that can include the cycling of intense emotion (fear, rage, grief) and the seeming lack of emotion (numbness). It can also include...
