by KCLAnderson | Mar 11, 2020 | Awareness, Boundaries, Emotions, Mother-daughter relationship, Uncategorized
“I hope some day you can be proud of her,” a woman said to me on Facebook, in regards to my mother (in response to a version of this blog post, which I originally wrote on Facebook). Who said I’m not proud of my mother? I thought to myself. Given...
by KCLAnderson | Feb 24, 2020 | Adult daughter, Boundaries, Empowerment, Generational patterns, Guilt, Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering
Did you know that at its root, the word “power” simply means “to be able”? And when you talk about taking back your power, you’re simply reminding yourself that you are, indeed, able. You are able to set healthy boundaries. You are able...
by KCLAnderson | Feb 6, 2020 | Awareness, Boundaries, controlling daughter, controlling mother, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, The Wisdom of Others, Uncategorized
Last week I wrote about the subtle-but-powerful difference between establishing a boundary as a form of protection and establishing a boundary as a form of respect. This week let’s explore the difference between boundaries, requests, and demands, with thanks to...
by KCLAnderson | Feb 4, 2020 | Adult daughter, Awareness, Boundaries, Emotions, Mother-daughter relationship
“You glow differently when you’re not fearful, hating, hurting, bitter, and miserable.” ~ Unknown I used to believe I had to protect myself from my mother. This belief created anxiety and fear. The fear drove me to react, push away, lash out, shut...
by KCLAnderson | Dec 17, 2019 | Boundaries, controlling daughter, controlling mother, Generational patterns, journal writing, Mother-daughter relationship
One reason boundary setting feels hard is because of the way you think about it. I have to set boundaries to protect myself from her bad behaviors. Compare that to: Boundaries are a way I can empower myself by focusing on my own behavior. I get it. Sometimes it feels...
by KCLAnderson | Nov 22, 2019 | Adult daughter, Awareness, Boundaries, Emotions, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering, Relationships
[I’ve been asked many times over the years why it’s so hard for some of us to have anything more than “superficial” conversations with our mothers or daughters…after a recent conversation with my mother, here’s my long answer.] The...
