by KCLAnderson | Nov 30, 2020 | Anger, Awareness, Boundaries, co-dependence, controlling mother, Emotions, Generational patterns, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, Relationships
There are some shitty people in the world and some of them just happened to be mothers. Acknowledging that doesn’t make you a bad person. Feeling angry about it doesn’t mean you’re not evolved. Feeling sad about it doesn’t mean you’re...
by KCLAnderson | Nov 3, 2020 | Awareness, Boundaries, co-dependence, controlling mother, Emotions, Generational patterns, Guilt, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, Relationships, The Wisdom of Others
Question from a reader: I have just finished reading your book, processing all the great things you’ve written, and deciding how to apply those things to my life. I have been married for three years to someone my mom actually picked out for me to meet. The...
by KCLAnderson | Oct 21, 2020 | Adult daughter, Awareness, Boundaries, controlling mother, Emotions, Empowerment, Feminism, forgiveness, Generational patterns, grief, Guilt, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering, Relationships, Self-Acceptance, The Wisdom of Others
It’s not easy to reconcile and heal your relationship with your mother if it’s been a source of suffering. It’s an ongoing process that can include the cycling of intense emotion (fear, rage, grief) and the seeming lack of emotion (numbness). It can also include...
by KCLAnderson | Feb 13, 2020 | Awareness, controlling mother, Feminism, Generational patterns, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, Shadow, The Wisdom of Others
What did your mother teach you (directly or indirectly) about choices? Her own, yours, other women’s? Directly mine taught me that I could be and do anything. She modeled it (not 100% of time, and that’s okay…she’s a human, not a robot)....
by KCLAnderson | Feb 6, 2020 | Awareness, Boundaries, controlling daughter, controlling mother, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, The Wisdom of Others, Uncategorized
Last week I wrote about the subtle-but-powerful difference between establishing a boundary as a form of protection and establishing a boundary as a form of respect. This week let’s explore the difference between boundaries, requests, and demands, with thanks to...
by KCLAnderson | Dec 17, 2019 | Boundaries, controlling daughter, controlling mother, Generational patterns, journal writing, Mother-daughter relationship
One reason boundary setting feels hard is because of the way you think about it. I have to set boundaries to protect myself from her bad behaviors. Compare that to: Boundaries are a way I can empower myself by focusing on my own behavior. I get it. Sometimes it feels...
