the most life-affirming thing you’ve ever done

by KCLAnderson | Oct 21, 2020 | Adult daughter, Awareness, Boundaries, controlling mother, Emotions, Empowerment, Feminism, forgiveness, Generational patterns, grief, Guilt, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering, Relationships, Self-Acceptance, The Wisdom of Others

It’s not easy to reconcile and heal your relationship with your mother if it’s been a source of suffering. It’s an ongoing process that can include the cycling of intense emotion (fear, rage, grief) and the seeming lack of emotion (numbness). It can also include...

There is no failure; there is only practice

by KCLAnderson | Aug 11, 2020 | Awareness, Emotions, Empowerment, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship

You are built to feel love. It’s your birthright. And there’s a part of you that wants to feel love when you think about your mother. Even if she was a terrible person. Even if she did terrible things. The idea of feeling love for her might also feel...

Crying out for Mother…again

by KCLAnderson | Jun 19, 2020 | Awareness, Emotions, Empowerment, Feminism, Generational patterns, grief, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, racism, Re-mothering, Relationships

A couple of weeks ago my husband and I noticed that the fur on our pup Scout’s cheek was wet. We had noticed it few days prior, but chalked it up to it being rainy and humid. Then we noticed that it was also sticky. When we tried to clean it, she yelped. We...

You know this is true

by KCLAnderson | Apr 28, 2020 | Adult daughter, Anger, Awareness, Emotions, Empowerment, Feminism, Generational patterns, inner critic, Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering, Shadow

“A bad mood can feel luxurious in a society that binds our happiness to our productivity.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣” ~ my friend Nicole Lawrence I was in such a foul mood on Saturday. I carried it with me, purposefully, and it was like a heavy purse that keeps sliding off...

To be able…

by KCLAnderson | Feb 24, 2020 | Adult daughter, Boundaries, Empowerment, Generational patterns, Guilt, Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering

Did you know that at its root, the word “power” simply means “to be able”? And when you talk about taking back your power, you’re simply reminding yourself that you are, indeed, able. You are able to set healthy boundaries. You are able...

How we heal individually is how we will heal collectively

by KCLAnderson | Oct 30, 2019 | Awareness, Empowerment, Generational patterns, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, Uncategorized

I am reading the final proof of The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal: A Guide For Revealing & Healing Toxic Generational Patterns and am reminded once again how powerful this work has been – and continues to be – in my life. How many times have you...