by KCLAnderson | Feb 13, 2020 | Awareness, controlling mother, Feminism, Generational patterns, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, Shadow, The Wisdom of Others
What did your mother teach you (directly or indirectly) about choices? Her own, yours, other women’s? Directly mine taught me that I could be and do anything. She modeled it (not 100% of time, and that’s okay…she’s a human, not a robot)....
by KCLAnderson | Nov 15, 2019 | Awareness, Emotions, Feminism, Generational patterns, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship
Last summer my mother asked me why I didn’t want to have children. She was sure there was a specific reason like: “You didn’t want to have to clean poopy diapers or hold someone’s head while they threw up.” While that is true, it’s not “the reason.” I replied that...
by KCLAnderson | Oct 15, 2019 | Awareness, Emotions, Feminism, Guilt, Mother-daughter relationship
Question from a reader: How do I navigate and get over the guilt I feel because I am choosing to protect myself instead of calling my mother (or rarely calling her). For a while, phone calls had resumed and were cautiously pleasant, until she spent a month in the...
by KCLAnderson | Jul 25, 2019 | Awareness, Feminism, Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering
…prior to choosing to heal her relationship with her mother:⠀ ⠀ that it’s what she wanted⠀ ⠀ that it was a choice⠀ ⠀ that it was possible⠀ ⠀ that her mother didn’t have to participate (this was a big one…and such a relief)⠀ ⠀ that healthy...
by KCLAnderson | Jun 14, 2019 | Boundaries, Feminism, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship
Question from a reader: My 80-year-old mother’s full-time home is nearby my summer home. I split my time between my two homes which are about and hour and a half apart. For the most part, she is a pretty healthy woman. Unfortunately, over the last couple of years she...
by KCLAnderson | May 13, 2019 | Feminism, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, Relationships
My mother is old and dying. We’ve never gotten along and everyone knows it. I can’t think of one nice thing to say about her. She was/is [insert all the negative things about her here]. But I feel obligated to say something nice about her at her funeral....
