Crying out for Mother…again

by KCLAnderson | Jun 19, 2020 | Awareness, Emotions, Empowerment, Feminism, Generational patterns, grief, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, racism, Re-mothering, Relationships

A couple of weeks ago my husband and I noticed that the fur on our pup Scout’s cheek was wet. We had noticed it few days prior, but chalked it up to it being rainy and humid. Then we noticed that it was also sticky. When we tried to clean it, she yelped. We...

The Mother Lode – A Community Project Just For You

by KCLAnderson | May 27, 2020 | Awareness, creativity, Emotions, Feminism, Generational patterns, journal writing, Mother-daughter relationship

The term Mother Lode refers to something valuable or in great abundance. You know it when you see it. The Mother Lode: A Conversation About Emotions, Power & Creativity is a free, month-long community project about what we learned (or didn’t learn) about...

You know this is true

by KCLAnderson | Apr 28, 2020 | Adult daughter, Anger, Awareness, Emotions, Empowerment, Feminism, Generational patterns, inner critic, Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering, Shadow

“A bad mood can feel luxurious in a society that binds our happiness to our productivity.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣” ~ my friend Nicole Lawrence I was in such a foul mood on Saturday. I carried it with me, purposefully, and it was like a heavy purse that keeps sliding off...

What did your mother teach you about having choices?

by KCLAnderson | Feb 13, 2020 | Awareness, controlling mother, Feminism, Generational patterns, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, Shadow, The Wisdom of Others

What did your mother teach you (directly or indirectly) about choices? Her own, yours, other women’s? Directly mine taught me that I could be and do anything. She modeled it (not 100% of time, and that’s okay…she’s a human, not a robot)....

On devastation, liberation, and compassion

by KCLAnderson | Nov 15, 2019 | Awareness, Emotions, Feminism, Generational patterns, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship

Last summer my mother asked me why I didn’t want to have children. She was sure there was a specific reason like: “You didn’t want to have to clean poopy diapers or hold someone’s head while they threw up.” While that is true, it’s not “the reason.”  I replied that...

Guilt pretends to be necessary

by KCLAnderson | Oct 15, 2019 | Awareness, Emotions, Feminism, Guilt, Mother-daughter relationship

Question from a reader: How do I navigate and get over the guilt I feel because I am choosing to protect myself instead of calling my mother (or rarely calling her). For a while, phone calls had resumed and were cautiously pleasant, until she spent a month in the...