by KCLAnderson | Jan 12, 2021 | Awareness, forgiveness, Mother-daughter relationship, Relationships, Trauma
Rehashing the past, even the recent past, with someone (your mother) who is unaware of their trauma tends not to end well. Her unresolved trauma and triggers make it nearly impossible for her to respond to you in an emotionally mature way. Instead she reacts. So. You...
by KCLAnderson | Nov 21, 2020 | Awareness, Emotions, forgiveness, Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering
MYTH: the only way to move forward, heal, and feel better about your relationship with your mother is for both of you – equally – to want to repair the relationship, for you both – equally – to actively work on it (maybe even in therapy together), for your mother to...
by KCLAnderson | Oct 21, 2020 | Adult daughter, Awareness, Boundaries, controlling mother, Emotions, Empowerment, Feminism, forgiveness, Generational patterns, grief, Guilt, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering, Relationships, Self-Acceptance, The Wisdom of Others
It’s not easy to reconcile and heal your relationship with your mother if it’s been a source of suffering. It’s an ongoing process that can include the cycling of intense emotion (fear, rage, grief) and the seeming lack of emotion (numbness). It can also include...
by KCLAnderson | May 7, 2020 | Awareness, Emotions, forgiveness, Generational patterns, Guilt, Mother-daughter relationship, Shame
[…it’s an asshole, “should is an asshole” ~ Jen Pastiloff] Forgiveness is something that comes up A LOT for adult daughters in regards to their mothers. And it usually gets one of two reactions: “Oh I really should forgive her, but I...
