by KCLAnderson | Oct 23, 2021 | cruelty, Generational patterns, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, narcissism, Re-mothering, Shame, The Wisdom of Others, Uncategorized
I visited my mother at the end of August. At one point, unprompted by me, and in a moment when my husband was alone with her, he told her how proud he is of me, how successful he thinks I am, how he sees that I help so many people. He really bragged on me. He had...
by KCLAnderson | Oct 7, 2021 | Awareness, Empowerment, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, narcissism, Re-mothering, Self-Acceptance, Uncategorized
If your mother is mean or cruel to you (or others in your family), it’s unlikely she will stop. It’s also unlikely that you will (100%) stop feeling hurt and/or angry in the moments when she’s mean or cruel, although you can reduce the amount...
by KCLAnderson | May 31, 2021 | Adult daughter, Boundaries, Generational patterns, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, narcissism, Relationships
Not all adult daughters want to go “no contact” with mothers who have narcissistic tendencies, bipolar disorder, borderline personality disorder, and other trauma-related conditions. If that’s you, here are three things you can do to make it easier...
by KCLAnderson | Oct 10, 2019 | Empowerment, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, narcissism
People share articles about narcissistic (or, insert issue of your choice here) mothers with me. The articles are often accurate. And at the same time, they can be limiting. And in some ways harmful. It’s the same with online “support” groups. While...
by KCLAnderson | Sep 14, 2019 | Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, narcissism, Relationships, Self-Acceptance
I stopped wishing she’d change. I started noticing the difference between what she does and how I labeled it. I asked myself two key questions. Re: wishing she’d change Think about how hard it is to change a significant behavior. First, you have to know it’s a...
by KCLAnderson | Jul 13, 2018 | Awareness, Emotions, Feminism, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, narcissism, Relationships, The Wisdom of Others, Trauma
Just now I was reading a novel in which one character (let’s call her Ann) says to another (let’s call her Zoe), “There’s no need to feel embarrassed.” Ostensibly, Ann wants Zoe to feel better. She doesn’t want Zoe to feel...
