Carry yourself to light

by KCLAnderson | Aug 31, 2018 | Awareness, Empowerment, Feminism, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, Re-mothering, Self-Acceptance, The Wisdom of Others, Trauma, Uncategorized

(I captured this image in my garden a couple of weeks ago) Bless the daughters who sat, carrying the trauma of mothers. Who sat asking for more love, and not getting any, carried themselves to light. Bless the daughters who raised themselves.~ Ijeoma Umebinyuo...

Bring yourself back to you

by KCLAnderson | Aug 18, 2018 | Boundaries, Re-mothering, Trauma

Dear You… It’s not wrong to feel what you feel. You are not wrong. You are seen. You are heard. You are understood. You’ve been through a lot in your life. It’s okay to take a break. Take a break from focusing on your mother and all the things...

“There’s no need to feel _____________” and other lies we’ve been told

by KCLAnderson | Jul 13, 2018 | Awareness, Emotions, Feminism, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, narcissism, Relationships, The Wisdom of Others, Trauma

Just now I was reading a novel in which one character (let’s call her Ann) says to another (let’s call her Zoe), “There’s no need to feel embarrassed.” Ostensibly, Ann wants Zoe to feel better. She doesn’t want Zoe to feel...

On trauma, healing, and understanding narcissistic mothers

by KCLAnderson | May 25, 2018 | Awareness, Boundaries, Emotions, Feminism, Generational patterns, Mother-daughter relationship, narcissism, Trauma

This comment came by way of a review of The Peaceful Daughter’s Guideon Amazon a couple of years ago. Your book has some good information, but it’s NOT for those dealing with a gaslighting, lying, manipulative full-blown Narcissist Mother. In that...

A story about lima beans, #metoo, and anger

by KCLAnderson | Apr 24, 2018 | Anger, Awareness, Boundaries, Emotions, Feminism, Mother Wound, Mother-daughter relationship, Relationships, The Wisdom of Others, Trauma

I’m sitting alone at the table in our small dining room in Trumbull, CT. My mother is in the kitchen and my stepfather is standing in the doorway watching me. On my plate is a pile of cold lima beans congealed with margarine. I had ruined our dinner because I...

The time I publicly disagreed with a famous self-help author

by KCLAnderson | Dec 22, 2017 | Awareness, Emotions, Generational patterns, Shame, The Wisdom of Others, Trauma

On Thanksgiving Day our local newspaper (The Day) featured an article/interview about a self-help author who is considered a pioneer of the so-called “happiness movement.” She also happens to live nearby. In the article, she shared that she lives by the premise that...