You are built to feel love. It’s your birthright.
And there’s a part of you that wants to feel love when you think about your mother. Even if she was a terrible person. Even if she did terrible things. The idea of feeling love for her might also feel dangerous and for good reason. You think it makes you vulnerable. You might also think she doesn’t deserve it.
So you lock the love you might feel for your mother away. And the longer it stays locked away, the more you build your case for why you shouldn’t ever feel it.
Here’s what I know for sure: you can feel love for her safely and have healthy boundaries up to and including never seeing or speaking to her again. And you can work your way towards unlocking that love and feeling it slowly and with care.
Expanding your capacity to feel expands your capacity to trust yourself. It expands your capacity to respond. It expands your capacity to create. To be discerning. To be boundaried. To be relaxed. To choose. To take your time. To speak your truth.
And believe it or not, choosing to feel love for your mother will free you.
Much, much love,
P.S. Is this you? Every time I offer the opportunity to schedule a call with me to explore working together, you click the link but never schedule the call. Maybe you wonder…
“Can she actually help me?”
“Is she going to go for the hard sell?”
“Is this safe?”
“I don’t understand what she does.”
“Is what I want worth it?”
Here’s what we do during a Clarity Call.
We chat for an hour and you tell me your story and how it’s impacted you. You get to talk. Uncensored. I listen. I don’t judge.
Then we explore what you want. The big dreams and the little things, too. The stuff you’ve told yourself it’s too late for. The stuff you’ve told yourself others can have/be/do but not you.
Nothing is off limits.
Then we create a vision of what your life can look like. We see where all the time and energy that goes towards trying to cope with and manage that difficult relationship might go instead.
Then we consider what obstacles are in the way. Maybe it’s time or money. Maybe it’s a fear that coaching won’t work. Maybe you’re worried that you can’t do it. We just talk it through. See what’s on your mind. Find the truth.
It’s an hour where you get to say what you want, out loud.
You make a decision that feels good and truthful. And even if we don’t end up working together, YOU change. You get to experience a slightly different version of yourself. It’s an opportunity to love yourself more.
It’s the best use of one hour. For both of us.
Are you worried that your dreams aren’t “big” enough? Hear this: you going after something you want IS big. It doesn’t matter what it is. It’s the fact that you want it and you’re going for it.