You can't change what you won't allow yourself to have
If you are tired of being...
...angry at
...disgusted by
...repelled by
...disdainful of
...hateful towards
...afraid of
...hurt by
...frustrated at
...annoyed by
...resentful towards
...affected by...
her...
...ask yourself this: what am I telling myself, about myself, when I notice myself feeling this way?
If the answer is some version of: I shouldn’t feel this way...I should be over it by now...it's not okay to feel this way...
...ask yourself this: have I truly allowed myself to feel those things without telling myself I shouldn't? Without shaming myself for feeling this way?
If this resonates, try this: give yourself 15 minutes (max) to allow, unfettered and unashamed, whatever feeling(s) arise when you think about her (or some situation involving her). Express it on your face. Move your body in whatever way it wants to move when you allow that feeling. Let whatever words your brain offers you to come out of your mouth. Let it all move through you and out of you.
Because you can’t change what you won’t allow yourself to have in the first place.
And, resisting your feelings is exhausting.
Much, much love,
Karen
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